I turn 40 this week.
How do I feel about it?
Well, let’s first acknowledge that the culture around us seems to give 39.9-yr-olds the message that we should be flipping out in some way. (Or completely ignoring it and pretending we’re still 27. 🙂 )
Growing up, 40 was the age I’d hear talked about as “the big one.” You know, when mid-life crises hit & you were now going downhill. 40 wasn’t just old, it was OOOOOOOLD!
Last year during a routine appointment, a nurse was warning me about all the things that were going to start happening after my next birthday. As if on the very day I turn 40, my body would magically fall off a cliff and I’d need to start choosing my favorite cane. (She was very sweet and I got a huge kick out of that conversation, actually. 🙂 )
The thing is, I don’t doubt that things will change…
…in fact, I’m kinda counting on it! (Insert Carlton dance moves.)
Every decade of my life has involved big changes, & every single one has just gotten BETTER!
- Teen years = Let’s not even talk about it.
- My 20s = Better, but still enough immaturity to be painful in retrospect.
- My 30s = Best decade by far! So much growth and wisdom I never had before…and I still want more!
So how do I feel?
I feel peaceful.
It feels RIGHT. This feels like the perfect timing to turn 40.
I feel like I’ve EARNED it, you know? My wisest friends are already in the 40-something Club, & I’m ready to join it.
Sure, if I think about “what I’m losing” (which is the right to call myself a 30-something) it seems a little sad at first. My 4th decade—my 30s—really was the best decade of my life so far!
When I asked myself why, I think it’s because of the experience & growth. I handle things better every year. My outlook is better every month, if not every week!
Every single day that I live another day on this earth, I get not only smarter but wiser. And I can’t get enough! I want more.
So to those of you sweet things who may be apprehensive about your next “big number” birthday, let me give you some hope. I genuinely feel peaceful and excited for my 40s. Yes, I’ve already experienced the physical effects of aging (having had two children in my 30s really kicked that one home, I think!).
I share this because many of us live in a culture where the appearance of youth is prized, and the appearance of age is something to “get fixed.” But think about it in terms of home design & décor—how many times is the vintage, beat-up wood stool prized over the brand-new one from the big box store?
We recognize the beauty in those aged things. Why stop there? Why doesn’t this apply this to ourselves, my friend?
I for one think it should. (Jazz hands!) Honestly, I just keep getting better—and I suspect you do too!😉

The mystery writer Agatha Christie was quoted as saying this about her second husband, an archaeologist. “The nice thing about being married to an archaeologist is that the older you get, the more interesting he finds you.” It’s been widely quoted, but she actually denied saying it.
Hi Margaret,
Oh how funny! Agatha Christie was definitely one of a kind.🙂
Thanks for your note!
Jess